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Two Questions You Should Ask Yourself Every Morning
December 18, 2012
I recently spoke at a conference in Silicon Valley and I was pleased to stay for the rest of the event afterwards. The final speaker, Connie Podesta, said something which struck my curiosity. She said, “I am going to share the two most important questions you will ever answer. If you answer no to either of them I will know some things about you. I will know you are more stressed than you need to be. I will know you are unhappier than you need to be.” She had my attention.
Here are the two questions:
#1 Are you proud of the choices you are making at home?
#2 Are you proud of the choices you are making at work?
We might feel tempted to push these questions aside as being overly simplistic. Yet, as Oliver Wendell Holmes is credited with saying, “I wouldn’t give a fig for simplicity on this side of complexity but I’d give my right arm for simplicity on the other side of complexity.”
One reason these questions strike me as simplicity on the other side of complexity is they remind us to pay attention to our current choices rather than our current results. Our results, whether we are currently experiencing success or failure, can be misleading because they happen after the fact. They are lag indicators. Consider how these questions can help:
In Times of Failure.There are clearly times when things are not going as we want them at work or at home. We could complain about this. We could make a fuss. We could become discouraged. Yet, if we ask these two questions every morning we can focus our energy on the choices we can make. Messed up something? Fine. We can get back on track. We can ask whether we are proud of the choices we are making now.
In Times of Success. Success can be a poor teacher. It can teach us to underinvest in the things which generated the success in the first place. I have argued this more fully in a piece for Harvard Business Review where I intentionally overstate the case in order to make it: success can be a catalyst for failure. We can begin to coast along and in the very moment of our greatest outward achievements we can make choices which undermine our future success.
In Rudyard Kipling’s beautiful poem “If” he brings together both of these scenarios when he penned counsel to his son:
“If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same…”
Kipling cautions his son to distrust both success (triumph) and failure (disaster) as imposters. He warns him both are deceptive.
Asking these two questions and becoming more deliberate in our choices can seem like a small thing in the moment. Sometimes we feel we are too busy living to really think about life. Yet failure to reflect on these questions could contribute to a life of regrets. Indeed, an Australian nurse, Bronnie Ware, cared for people in the last 12 weeks of their lives and she recorded the most often-discussed regrets. At the top of the list: “I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” Next on the list: “I wish I hadn’t worked so hard” and “I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.”
I am not sure these are the most important two questions we will ever ask, but surely we will have fewer regrets if we spend a moment every morning asking them.
I welcome your thoughts below and @GregoryMcKeown.
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Karen N G.
This is a splendid perspective.
It’s a game of inches !
Hmmm very revealing……thanks
Thanks for sharing. Our successes come from the lessons learnt through first failing…
Mohammad Hossein A.
Très sage. Merci! Easy to remember to apply daily and easy to share. Thank you for the inspiration.
Great article! Really revealing! Thanks!
Great!!! Thanks! Pm.
This is A must READ!!!! With failure comes opportunity. Ask yourself these 2 questions everyday.
Sherrill A. T.
Thank you for sharing, it was very enlightening and I will definitely incorporate these two question in my daily walk of life. I look forward to your future topics.
Execellent thought provoking article. Life’s whole lies in these 2qns only. Thanks!
Thanks for the post. The moment these questions are asked, list of things come up that are not aligned with the purpose and waiting for our right choices. It is the indecision that is the worst choice we make.
My question every morning is “What do I really want to do today?”. I find that we always have time to do what we want to do, and a lot of little distracting things can be put off.
Wow! This article really simplifies how all of us should live our lives. I think that what separates the good leaders from great leaders is always asking questions and challenging the status quo.
Excellent article – thank you.
Absolutely spot on.
Great! This article is a “must read”. These questions need to be asked over and over again in order to avoid regrets at the end of one’s journey on this planet. Thanks. I’ve been blessed.
Jeffrey J. P.
You can not be a true success without taking on risk and at time failing. It is better to have been in the ring and fought and given you best and learned from the experience than to have been on the sideline for then you have neither won nor lost. (an abbreviated quote from Teddy Roosevelt).
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